CSUNYAP, 56
I just work at seeing things the way they are, without labels or tags. I am seeking those who are not afraid of words, who are not fearful of expressing themselves honestly. I enjoy chatting, getting to know new friends. I've been called a BHM (big handsome man), but the best description is I'm a hard working man, big and muscular underneath a few 30-or-so extra pounds. I'm a vegetarian, but am okay with those who are not (unless it appears to me their diet is hurting them, and even then I'll keep my thoughts to myself). I feel younger than my age (I guess it's a combination of my kids making me feel young, my diet, and exercise). I look for connections (you know, those who "click" with me and me with them), so body type is unimportant to me. We're in an open marriage in order to remain together as friends for the kids' sake. 'been that way for a long time... I enjoy chatting, or having meaningful conversations with others outside my marriage. I know some of you will not understand this freedom from possession and jealousy, but this type of openness has worked for us for several years. Eventually, after the kids are grown, we know we'll part company as friends. We'll move on, and evolve some more...